First Date Sex
I can't speak for every man, but in my experience if a woman invites me in, for any stated reason, at the end of a date, then it is her way of expressing that she would not necessarily mind if you attempted a sexual encounter. Likewise if she accepts my invitation for her to come in to my place.
It may be said that the couple simply wishes to carry on a scintillating conversation, but if so, they'd not have bothered to leave the restaurant.
As to whether any woman has genuinely thought, "Gee, he looks thirsty, perhaps some water would do him good before he drives home.", I doubt this.
Other excuses for inviting the guy or girl in:
1. "Let me show you that "x" I told you about." Where as X = cd collection, autographed baseball, Ansel Adams print, your portrait, your new stereo/tv/etc...lol...drapes...
2. "Care for a drink before hitting the road?" Yeah, in this day of legally drunk being .08% a drink is just what you want before driving home at night!
3. "Let me show you my new place." As if there is anything novel about his/her apartment other then the color of the Ty Bears she collects, or the brand of air freshener he ran out and bought that afternoon!
4. "I just got the new release of X that came out today, if you like." Uh huh. Watching Spiderman II or What A Woman Wants is just what everyone was itching to do at 11pm!
Basically, if the two find themselves in the same dwelling place, then it is to be assumed that the two each are willing...at the least willing to engage in some foreplay to see. The guy will never change his mind at that point - at least history records no exceptions - but on some occassions the woman will. Rather then simply say "no", and thus be rude, she'll make "just a quick call", then learn to her sorrow that her cat choked on a chicken bone, etc.
Assuming the woman does not have any emergencies pounce on her, the foreplay will then carry on to first date sex.
While there are some guys who swear by it, I find it tacky to leave right after. You also then are giving up round 2, and in the morning round 3. (Yeah, yeah, the rest of you guys have 5 rounds, bully for you!)
What's a woman do if she doesn't want all that? It's not that hard. Meet the date at the restaurant instead of him picking you up. That way if it goes south you can drive yourself straight home afterward.
(Guys, in such a situation, pull the "I know this great little X" dodge, where X = a coffeehouse, a cozy pub, a pretty forest, a 24 hour Ice Cream Parlor, anything to drive her away from the restauarant with her car left behind!)
Women...obviously you may say, "No, thank you" if that is brought up.
If the woman goes for that, she's not committed yet. She can be dropped back off at her car. The guy will be working out a creative reason for why stopping off at his place first makes perfect sense - when in reality, it would never actually make sense!
The man will wish to show her something or get her something or drop off something that necessitates swinging by his place. The woman if she does not want sex should probably somewhat firmly state her desire to be dropped off first.
If the man is so rude to insist, then she should wait in the car when they arrive, and ignore coldly - if need be - his boorish cajolery to come up with him for a minute.
(Guys...don't be that guy)
Now she may have been convinced, if so, he'll trot out the pretense for her to go up with him, and off they'll go to see his new dvd player!
Well, all that is the general outline!
Dean West
It may be said that the couple simply wishes to carry on a scintillating conversation, but if so, they'd not have bothered to leave the restaurant.
As to whether any woman has genuinely thought, "Gee, he looks thirsty, perhaps some water would do him good before he drives home.", I doubt this.
Other excuses for inviting the guy or girl in:
1. "Let me show you that "x" I told you about." Where as X = cd collection, autographed baseball, Ansel Adams print, your portrait, your new stereo/tv/etc...lol...drapes...
2. "Care for a drink before hitting the road?" Yeah, in this day of legally drunk being .08% a drink is just what you want before driving home at night!
3. "Let me show you my new place." As if there is anything novel about his/her apartment other then the color of the Ty Bears she collects, or the brand of air freshener he ran out and bought that afternoon!
4. "I just got the new release of X that came out today, if you like." Uh huh. Watching Spiderman II or What A Woman Wants is just what everyone was itching to do at 11pm!
Basically, if the two find themselves in the same dwelling place, then it is to be assumed that the two each are willing...at the least willing to engage in some foreplay to see. The guy will never change his mind at that point - at least history records no exceptions - but on some occassions the woman will. Rather then simply say "no", and thus be rude, she'll make "just a quick call", then learn to her sorrow that her cat choked on a chicken bone, etc.
Assuming the woman does not have any emergencies pounce on her, the foreplay will then carry on to first date sex.
While there are some guys who swear by it, I find it tacky to leave right after. You also then are giving up round 2, and in the morning round 3. (Yeah, yeah, the rest of you guys have 5 rounds, bully for you!)
What's a woman do if she doesn't want all that? It's not that hard. Meet the date at the restaurant instead of him picking you up. That way if it goes south you can drive yourself straight home afterward.
(Guys, in such a situation, pull the "I know this great little X" dodge, where X = a coffeehouse, a cozy pub, a pretty forest, a 24 hour Ice Cream Parlor, anything to drive her away from the restauarant with her car left behind!)
Women...obviously you may say, "No, thank you" if that is brought up.
If the woman goes for that, she's not committed yet. She can be dropped back off at her car. The guy will be working out a creative reason for why stopping off at his place first makes perfect sense - when in reality, it would never actually make sense!
The man will wish to show her something or get her something or drop off something that necessitates swinging by his place. The woman if she does not want sex should probably somewhat firmly state her desire to be dropped off first.
If the man is so rude to insist, then she should wait in the car when they arrive, and ignore coldly - if need be - his boorish cajolery to come up with him for a minute.
(Guys...don't be that guy)
Now she may have been convinced, if so, he'll trot out the pretense for her to go up with him, and off they'll go to see his new dvd player!
Well, all that is the general outline!
Dean West
posted by Dean West @ 4:57 AM
1 Comments:
At March 14, 2005 1:26 PM,
It's Me, Maven... said…
I literally giggled this post. Thanks Dean. And it's true every last word of it. Pretense and contrived come to mine (about the ruses folks will use to "lure" their prey). Also, there's not much call for "DUH" these days when it comes to folks who are oblivious to these "little signs".
PS: I've got a Tribble & a Wookie collection to show you:)
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