Resolution, Reconciliation, Retraction

On February 10th I posted a blog article called "Rainbow's Coalition". In it I accused Sharyn/Rainbow Circe of assisting a variety of net stalkers in their campaign against a woman I love.

As is usual in these turbulent flame wars and net battles there was more to the story. Sharyn and I had been friends at a group of hers. In all the battles going on, there was fall out there, and she felt it appropriate to demote me.

As it happens, it was over a thing that I had not done, but she could not have known that. Reaction met action, reaction to reaction, each wondering why the other was doing this or that or the other. Communications break down, and everything that was questionable, mistaken or misunderstood gets then taken in the worst possible light.

So far I describe what most all of us have been through when it comes to friends having a falling out.

However. Neither one of us were actually bad people, for all that we may have wondered. We each have been wishing that this had never happened, and that we'd have stayed friends, and that none of the ugliness would have taken place.

We have therefore sought to meet and figure things out. Who did this or that or what happened here or there. We agreed finally to meet in a chat room in some group outside either of our control, and worked out all that needed working out.

We are each sorry to the other for all the misunderstandings that have taken place, and all the mistakes made. Neither one of us wished for all this to have happened. We are not instantly buddies and best friends, such things are for fairy tales. But we are at peace, we are on friendly terms, and there is opportunity now for healing and a perhaps fully renewed friendship in the future.

There is respect and honor and peace in the meanwhile, and those are good things. There will be no more negativity spoken of by either of us about or to either of us. We each understand that the other means no harm.

I state for the record that Sharyn's role in that which I said she was in was a result of me misunderstanding her motives and her rationale behind various actions. I have offered her my apologies and she has accepted. I know longer believe as I did. She has no desire to harm or spread harm on these issues.

I have heard from Sharyn that she understands that things she thought of me, things she thought I had done, were not. But that other unknowns, with their own agendas, found it convenient to set two people at odds. She has offered her apologies for the misunderstanding, and I have accepted that. She does not view me as she had when we were upset with each other.

We ask that all people in these sections respect that, and that we all move on. This all started when a certain group came over to the Philosophy section to deliberately stir trouble. They have been remarkably successful, but with this, it now ends.

The issue of these "men" who keep attacking and harassing a bereaved mother for sport will not be used to further embroil the Philosophy and Spiritual groups that we each have various memberships in. And even now, the last manager of the last group that this battle has affected is being asked for peace by me, and I suspect that we will work something out.

When that occurs, this battle will be reconfined to where it belongs - in the few groups that these stalkers control in the News section. They won't be able to wage war or set at odds the people who were trying to post in peace in the Philosophy and Spiritual sections.

The issue will be dead in these sections. If you see someone post on it, any nic, any time, know that they are only trying to cause pain, no matter how gently they speak on it. For the principle people involved are of one mind in wishing it to be over, and confined to the actively hostile groups.

Dean West